Love More, Laugh More and have No Fears
When we join SL we usually do so with the simple intention of making friends. We want to talk, laugh, relax and escape from our day-to-day responsibilities. Some people we connect with quickly, we discover personalities “click” and we start looking forward to time spent in each other’s company. If you are like me, there is a smile and twinkle in the eye when certain people log in.
Logging into SL within designated real life private time means we are likely to be relaxed and playful. Real life pressures such as juggling finances; demands of family and the need to perform ten tasks at once on a time critical deadline are removed from SL relationships. We are left to enjoy the positive aspects of a relationship were our sense of humour is shared in witty adult banter. Not burdened with obligations we can be spontaneous and silly. No interruptions ensures our full attention is given and received during those long conversations.
Romance and affection flow naturally when we feel appreciated and understood. With the visual stimuli that SecondLife provides such as beautiful sunsets and ever-burning fireplaces SL relationships blossom quickly.
With the good however comes the bad. Most of us have experienced being left nursing a bruised ego with a heart needing drastic defibrillation intervention. We lick our wounds and focus our attention elsewhere as we re-create our second lives usually swearing at one point to never consider another relationship or even entertain the idea of dating. Time goes by, we slowly branch out and discover the world has continued to move along. Things seem different but they aren’t really, it is us that has changed. Whilst we try not to hold others to the list of sin’s of the “ex”, trust usually becomes an issue from a mind that refuses to forget.
Whether it is a conscious decision to put yourself back into the world of SL dating or not there is nothing wrong with baby steps forward. The dating experience can seem at times as if it is filled with hidden minefields and surprise snipers. Battle fatigues instead of formal gowns a more appropriate dress code.
Being completely honest with yourself about what you seek for your Second Life brings freedom. Knowing what you want, believe in and are ready to experience gives you a secure foundation. Don’t allow yourself to feel pressured into accepting anything less than what you deserve. Relish in the pleasure of making just friends as it is friendship regardless of language, culture and beliefs that SecondLife has always been built upon and if someone special enters your life once again, make the good times worth everything else.