Have you noticed, that there is a big difference between saying you have forgiven someone and actually forgiving them. You can tell the difference, that tug in your heart, that feeling of the rubber band snapping back when you reminisce about what that person did to you to earn them a need for forgiveness.
This weeks lesson can be found in full here on Alexa’s blog if completing the challenge with us to have the best year of your life, do take the time to read it in full.
This lesson is about learning to let go of the resentments and grudges we bear against another. To recognise the drain that harbouring such resentments holds upon our own bodies and to seek the lesson we received by living that experience. For once we find that one thing we can take away, which has made us a better person, even from a painful situation the process to finally forgive happens.
When you finally let go of the anger and pain, when you have reconciled the act and moved on from that moment you are left with a certain calm. Gone are the tears, gone is the heat in the cheeks from the embarrassment felt and instead there is a weird feeling of peace even when the situation arises in discussion and we know at some point people mention things we’d rather left unsaid.
Sometimes we reach this place easily and other times it is a long journey to take. People in SecondLife hurt people. Its one of those sad but true facts of life. Sometimes its intentional and other times its just the way a situation comes to its conclusion. When we hold onto the pain and actions that people within SecondLife do to hurt us we are left trapped in binds of unhappiness, jealousy and bitterness. We embrace memories that leave tears upon our cheeks, as we wish we could move on to other facets of our life jealousy finds a safe harbour and there is a bitterness in the way we view future relationships.
It is important to realize that forgiveness isn’t about absolving the act one has done, it isn’t about forgetting or saying that it was okay for someone to hurt or harm you as they have done. Some people are cruel, some people get a kick out of causing pain to another. It’s all part of their “game”. Forgiveness is ultimately a gift to yourself. It is about finding your internal scissors and cutting those ties that bind us to that single moment in time and fully realizing it is okay to let go, move on and live again. You have in the process learnt the value of yourself and emerged a wiser and stronger person.
Spend some time this week thinking about a situation where you can claim your life back by starting to forgive?
NB: I intentionally haven’t included specific details on the person who I finally managed to forgive. Although forgiven there will always be a sense of disappointment that they turned into everything they said they would never be and it is my belief that once an act is forgiven it looses its relevance and therefore doesn’t deserve further attention.