Rarely would we leave someone on our friends list if they continually talked down to us or degraded us in any way. There would be a quick hit of the delete button and maybe even a tap to the mute button if they had been particularly offensive. After all, none of us enjoy our ego’s, pride or feelings hurt.
Yet somehow, we are our nastiest critics and rarely turn off our negative self talk. Instead often giving it our full attention, letting it cause us damage as it consumes our thoughts and influences our actions. We all do it, yes, even inside SecondLife. How many times have you thought, “well, I really stuffed that up,” or moaned “I’m such a fool, I should have realized,” or worse “its to be expected when it comes to me!” Even the basic, “I can’t do that” puts that spin of negativity into our lives.
Something I liked about this week’s lesson is the imagery created by Debbie Ford around viewing the whole concept of negative self talk, as a Shadow Box. A boom box that repeats the same loud and obnoxious message disturbing our rather peaceful pleasant lives.
Negative self talk is probably one of the biggest hurdles we face in life so to be able to see it in our mind as a piece of equipment, means just like any device, we can switch it off!
I decided to give this a try so any negative message from either myself or others during this week, I just imagined in my mind turning the dial to a new channel, a new tune. I was surprised by the sense of calm and happiness I was left with. Maybe this comes from taking control of the situation without dispute, conflict or self hating?
So this week join me in giving it a try. When you hear that boom box in your ear sending those messages, think of the message as garbled static interrupting your favourite song, give the knob a quick turn and continue to enjoy your week. Who knows, maybe you will get the same positive effects as I did from listening to a new beat.
Feel free to share what steps you take to stop yourself from being your own worst enemy.