As we go through life our focus is often just on the end result to an experience and not the decisions of choice that we made, or the actions we took to bring us to that final place. It is true we are the drivers of our destiny with our own happiness resting firmly within our responsibility. Therefore the importance of making choices devoid of fear or influence is paramount.
Everything we “are” today can be directly referred back to the choices we made in the past and in a world such as Second Life full of assorted personalities and differing agendas it is important to remember that following past patterns will result in similar outcomes, over and over again.
We give ourselves time to reflect and contemplate what is the most appropriate action for a successful outcome when faced with major decisions or setting goals. However with the break-neck speed within SecondLife rarely do we give the same care and consideration to those spur of the moment decisions which have the ability to heavily impact on the happiness and contentment felt within our lives.
The greatest lesson I took from this weeks challenge is the acknowledgement that it is ME at the wheel of my life bus and not the incidents which happen to me. As such I always have as much time needed to consider options and make choices I am comfortable with.
Having knowledge of the “why” choices were made in the past empowers you, giving you the strength to consider other choices and actions when the opportunity arises.
Your Self-Love Assignment
Reflect on an area of your life where you’d like to create a different result. Write down exactly what you would like to change in this area.
Now make a list of all the choices you’ve made in the past 12 months that were in direct opposition to the fulfilment of this desire. Allow yourself to see the choices you made that dis-empowered you, that came from a place of fear, and that were unconscious or self-sabotaging.
Finally, identify two choices you can make this week that will move you closer to the result you desire.
© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford