Maybe you noticed that the lesson challenges disappeared the past few weeks? Bet you thought I was just being a little lax and once again running behind schedule.
As you are about to discover, the past few weeks challenges have been a little, shall we say, challenging.
Lesson 21 is about giving. Not the go out and buy a gift type of giving which is relatively easy for most of us and costs at most, a little time and finances. We aren’t even talking the baking of a cake or hand crafted gift to express love. Although more of an investment of ourselves we still remain within safe giving territory. This week we are venturing into a position of vulnerability, participating in the hardest form of giving, risking that which is most precious to ourselves, our heart.
Giving from our hearts should be easy. For most however it is one of the most difficult forms of expression; especially when the heart carries pain and baggage of a failed previous relationship or loss of friendship. It is those experiences that cause us to batten down the hatches, showing a hardened exterior whilst censoring the words that do manage to escape our lips.
My wish has always been to share how the weekly lesson can be adapted and implemented into “second” life. I’ve never wanted to just copy and post the weekly lesson just to ensure the numbers stay on track. Therefore I hope you forgive the delays in bring you the results because sometimes lessons deserve longer than a week for full effect.
Sharing how much we care about someone and expressing the ways they improve our lives enables us to feel the tenderness within our heart. As the lesson asked to reflect on three special people and gift to them open hearted love my immediate thought was how do I do something special for people I spend each day with? After all, they know how I feel about them … don’t they?
Given the depth of the lovely friendships I share with Alexa and Dremmy I like to believe that rarely a week goes by where I don’t show these ladies how important and valued they are in my life. My token gift pales in significance of the importance just our daily conversations together are to me. Aside from making more effort to be the first to engage with good mornings and good night, I also attempted to spend more time with each doing their “thing”.
Whether it was watching Dremmy dance up on stage as part of the Go-Go girls for Johnny Paramour or sharing the same rezz platform whilst sorting inventory with Alexa. It was the simple act of taking time out to share little moments together which I hope shows my appreciation for the friendships.
Andro often see’s my constant struggle to let down the defences. Over a few conversations I sensed his excitement about this being his first ever SecondLife Halloween. With so many SecondLife Halloween’s under my belt, this year I was tired and unenthusiastic to even decorate the house. I realized the greatest gift I could give Andro was to let go of the “tied to the past” PB and see SecondLife once again through new eyes.
I hope that the spider webs, pumpkins and candy apples. Along with the trick a treating at Havenhallow, various Halloween hunts completed and games amongst autumn leaves express to him the words I rarely speak. That he is indeed an important part of my SecondLife.
Lastly, sneaking in a fourth person, my sister Anee (Slynn). Although no longer inside SecondLife she is never forgotten in my life here. It fills me with such gratitude to know she actively participates with comments here on my blog purely as a way of staying connected and sharing my life here. I hope she realizes, putting aside the long history of friendship we share, our conversation endings of hugs and “love you” are words I do not share with many. They alone prove my affection for our friendship.
Your Self-Love Assignment
Take a few minutes to reflect on the special people in your life. See what gift from your heart you could give them that would let them know how you feel. Could you make a special dinner for your mate? Could you plan a special outing for a parent or sibling? How about bringing flowers or a homemade treat to your co-workers at the office? Or slipping a love note into your kids’ lunch boxes or your lover’s briefcase?
Your assignment this week is to come up with three over-the-top ways to share your heart with those you love. Notice how you feel afterward.
© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford