Because we know and understand that within us all are flaws, we never hold expectations for others to be “perfect” human beings. When it comes to ourselves however we often push ourselves to strive for impossible targets of perfection. Falling short of these high standards, those same standards we would never expect of any other, we then beat ourselves up at our failure giving our ego a bit of a dent.
In a virtual world where we can create the perfect avatar you could be fooled into thinking that the struggle for acceptance doesn’t exist. Yet you only have to look at the commentary and criticism of avatar looks by some to realize that within SecondLife just as in the real world, people are quick to judge.
Striving to create that picture perfect avatar requires these days, it seems to attach a multitude of items. From the basics of eyelashes, eyeshadow, lipstick, nails and breast skin enhancements. To the more advance steps of adding mesh breasts, mesh bottoms and I’ve learnt just recently mesh heads!
There have been times over the past twelve months when I’ve seen newly released skins and wondered is my nearly four-year old Laq skin outdated and “flawed” in some way by not being a current release. After testing out demo’s I always return to what is comfortable, what I “feel” is me.
I guess in the evolution of an avatar, there is a point when we become settled and happy with our style. In acceptance of the pixels which become “us”, (to the point anything else feels odd) we find happiness; regardless whether we are wearing the latest fashion or know the current style trends. What do you think?
Your Self-Love Assignment
This week, make a list of all the things you’ve disliked, resisted, or judged the most about yourself.
As you read over your list, pause before each item and say to yourself, “I’m worthy of my own love and acceptance, even though I _________.” For example: “I’m worthy of my own love and acceptance even though I’m 25 pounds overweight”; “I’m worthy of my own love and acceptance even though I don’t have a job”; “I ‘m worthy of my own love and acceptance even though I feel lonely.”
Read your list each day, pausing after each statement to breathe in your words, then move to the next item on your list.
© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford