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Lesson 33 – Choose Powerful Interpretations

2014 02 02 PB Kollective Shape Skin Necklace - 26 Jan

I am in charge of how I feel,

and today I CHOOSE happiness.

Suffering heat wave conditions for the past four days for the third time in a month, it seemed only natural with temperatures of 40 degrees celsius (104 Fahrenheit) to head to the beach to write this weeks lesson.

I really love the dreamy effect that teaming together the youthful Angie shape from Styleish Shapes and the soft alluring Sage skin by Deluxe Body Factory achieved.  A touch of class was added with the eye-catching necklace created by Designs by Sebastian. All these items are offered in the current round of The Kollective, which started on January 29th and runs till 26th February.

Onto the lesson… this week certainly nailed how I’ve been feeling regarding certain aspects of my SecondLife. Having always believed it is how we deal with a situation that is important. I found it interesting to read that it is never the event that causes us pain but more how when we twist it to make it a reflection of ourselves that the harm is done. This interpretation has a direct influence, either negative or positive, on the way we feel about ourselves.

Having grappled for a few months with an incident, understanding this concept was the much-needed lightbulb moment of sense and reasoning.

When someone in my inner circle offends me rarely do I say something preferring to let things slide unless it is something undeniably confrontational which of course then demands attention. By seeking to find an excuse for why a person might behave in such a manner usually I am able to not take things too personally.

2014 02 02 PB Kollective Shape Skin Necklace - Close up

Of course, if feelings have been hurt there are times when rational reasoning simply doesn’t work. Instead actions are viewed as personal attacks.

Without going into details, my situation it is a clear example of  the “me” interpretation this lesson speaks of and the preceding influence on feelings. When a friend changed their SecondLife suddenly with little explanation (the event), I took the view that the person obviously had taken issue with me and given the lack of consultation on their motives, no longer valued the depth of our friendship. (the interpretation).

If I had chosen a more positive interpretation of this situation such as, “they” just needed a change, instead of making it about “me”, the proceeding feelings of hurt and disappointment would have been avoided.

From now on this way of thinking is going to become my number one rule on “”How not to complicate life”.

The whole lesson can be found here as usual on Alexa Maravilla’s blog.

Your Self-Love Assignment

Think of one situation or circumstance from your past that you’ve deemed painful, embarrassing, or hurtful. Notice how you interpreted this event by examining what you made it mean about you.

Now invent three positive interpretations of this occurrence that would leave you feeling powerful and strong, rather than weak and victimized. Pick the interpretation that makes you feel the best about yourself – the one that most nurtures your soul and feeds your self-love.

© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford

2014 02 02 PB Kollective Shape Skin Necklace - Laying down

Credits:
*SKIN: DELUXE BODY FACTORY – [DBF] SAGA SKIN BLACK BROWS VANILLA SUBTLE CLEAVAGE @ THE KOLLECTIVE
*SHAPE: STYLEISH SHAPES – ANGIE CUSTOM SHAPE @ THE KOLLECTIVE
*NECKLACE: DESIGNS BY SEBASTIAN – VICTORIAN SWIRL NECKLACE @ THE KOLLECTIVE
Hair: D!va – Haruka (Topaz)
Nails: Sexy Mamas – Prim Nails
Dress (including hat): AsHmOoT – s/S Coll JumpSuit  (picnic hunt 2013 gift)
Eyes: IKON  – Spectral Eyes (Abyss)
PHOTO POSE 1: OLIVE JUICE- BEACH BODIES GIRL 3
PHOTO POSE 2: OLIVE JUICE- BEACH BODIES GIRL 2 (SIDE CLOSE VIEW)
PHOTO POSE 3: OLIVE JUICE- BEACH BODIES GIRL 1 (LAYING DOWN)
Photo Prop: EBDesign – Victorian Summer Beach Day (2013 Hunt Gift)
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3 comments on “Lesson 33 – Choose Powerful Interpretations

  1. PeepSideshow Darkward
    February 9, 2014

    You look just…WOW! ❤

    • purplebutterflylykin
      February 9, 2014

      Thanks Peep! As you know I rarely change skin and shape, but this one might just become a regular. It makes me feel all girly, soft and cute with a weird desire to go hug pandas.

      • PeepSideshow Darkward
        February 9, 2014

        lol there are worse things you could hug 😉 It really does suit you!

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