Australian’s generally are known for being direct and to the point. A common phrase used in conversations here is “don’t beat around the bush” or “I won’t beat around the bush”. For those who have never heard the term in very basic terms it means to be direct with your words and straight to the point of the topic being discussed.
Drawing comparison with an elephant doing ballet in a china store I am rarely known for being subtle. When setting my mind on wanting something I do everything within my power to achieve it. I will spent hours researching and then not hesitate to contact those more knowledgeable to ask for what I need to ensure success.
Makes a mental note to apologise to Marina and Jaylin for jumping about on their furniture displays at Aphrodite Store for this photograph. I simply couldn’t resist once the idea enter my mind. If anyone is interested, pictured is the Industrial Fancy Living Room which is a personal favourite of mine.
For those that believe it is the polite mode of behaviour to drop subtle hints, my direct, straight to the point actions can often be mistaken as being bold, brazen, even fearless bordering on cocky.
However dancing around a subject in the vain hope that the other person links up the clues and “gets” what you’re implying in my experience just leads to miscommunication and error. Given the majority of the human population is unable to read minds it is essential we communicate effectively.
Clearly stating what we need or want; including specific details; ensures that time is never wasted. Which in todays busy world is a good thing!
I liked the interpretation in the original lesson of seeing a request for help as an invitation/opportunity to participate in another’s experience. After all, rarely is a genuine request for help denied.
Even with my direct nature, due to experiences and learned behaviour when it comes to asking for emotional support I struggle. Instead of being open to those who care about me, allowing them to help take any pain or sadness away I push it within and deal privately.
Maybe simply by changing the way I view asking for help in those situations it will become easier to actually ask for it? I figure it’s at least worth a try.
Your Self-Love Assignment
This week, acknowledge the areas in your life where you’re able to make powerful requests. In what situations or relationships are you able to clearly ask for what you need? Now notice the places where you’re unable to ask for what you need and identify what stops you from making powerful requests. Is it embarrassment? Fear of rejection? Lack of confidence? Allow yourself to see what belief, thought, or fear you’d have to give up in order to clearly state your needs and desires.
Identify two powerful requests you could make this week that would move you in the direction you want to go.
© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford
With an air of tender affection and trust tinged with sadness this brand new release from Eternal Dream Poses is great for those stylized photo seeking a compassionate feel.