When I came across this quote it bought quite the giggle to my lips. In just two sentences it adequately expresses how I have felt this past month.
Being one who attempts to meet the needs of others, it is not unusual for me to place myself last on the list for self-care. I knew considerable changes needed to occur when I began to feel drained by my Second Life existence.
As I sought thinking time, my attempt to utilise the “Unavailable/busy mode” only succeeded in offending friends. Being incredibly nosey “Auto Response” failed as I was unable to ignore any flashing instant message box. Leaving Second Life for a time began to look like the only option. Reality had a different plan; yet the end result as I have previously mentioned has been a decrease in Second Life time. Overall this has been a positive change with the time I am online, once again being enjoyed.
The reason I say all this is that being indulgent doesn’t have to be about giving yourself a material “thing”. It can just be about granting yourself the space and time to disappear into downtime.
For my own sanity, as real life began to bite, it became essential for some luxury indulgent moments. I prefer to call these, Stress Busters. Using the same theory as above, my indulgence and hence pleasure has come from tucking myself away at my craft desk, organising and preparing items for a craft retreat over Easter. With the house quiet, even an hour manages to renew the spirit and energy for the following day.
As for a material indulgent moment. Each Friday after a surprise pick up of the children from school we have bypass via McDonald’s on the way home. I realize McDonald’s is not a luxury to most but with the nearest golden M at least a forty minute drive at a speed of 100 kilometres (62 miles), a large mocha and two macaroons have easily become a major luxury in this woman’s life.
Are you like me and not all that good at indulging yourself? I’d love to know what things bring a smile to your face.
Your Self-Love Assignment
Imagine that your favorite person in the whole world is coming to visit you this week. This person has been working hard and is looking forward to some serious relaxation time. Imagine that the two of you have the same tastes, and it’s your job to plan at least three things you can do to ensure that your friend gets the most out of your time together. Write down three indulgent activities that you would like to share with your friend.
Now read over your list, because this is your self-love assignment for the week. Choose at least two of these activities and indulge yourself!
© The Best Year of Your Life by Debbie Ford