When it gets real, just know that I’ll be there
I got your back, like it’s just you and me here
I’ll go to war for you, let them bring it
I’ll take on the world for you, better believe it
So if you need me,
….. just holla my name
NEEDS A LITTLE WARNING: Today is one of those deep and serious type of discussions. You know the type, where you just let the thoughts flow onto the page not really sure which direction you might actually finish at. A post where you try to make sense of situations by just downloading the information and sorting it into relevant piles as you go. So anyone seeking light and fluffy, today would be the day to scroll onto the next blog on your reader or hit that delete button in your email. Although I would plead that you continue to read for I believe the ultimate message is important.
Last week a long time friend called my dedication and commitment to friendship into account. Despite best intentions I have to admit that if you seek a friend who will remember birthdays and special events; or ask about doctor appointment results then I am probably not a great candidate. My track record on responding to conversational emails is generally poor and rare are random telephone calls with no purpose but just chit-chat.
In my eyes, these issues have never been a problem or even a lacking to those friendships I hold so dear to my heart. I have always believed that my sense of care and responsibility for those within my arms reach was evident. That the love and loyalty I give to those who enter my world of friendship is as true online as it is in my reality. Whether we speak daily or once ever six months my friendship is secure with my commitment to always be there, steadfast.
Like many times in my life, I turned to music. There are many reasons emotional and physical why different songs impact upon us and as I searched upon my soul for my beliefs on friendship and the obligations if any which are tied to being someone’s friend, one particular song hit me hard.
Devastated by the lost of their band member Simon Battle to suicide back in September, girl band G.R.L, released in dedication last Thursday a tune called Lighthouse.
Having said goodbye to soon to people in my life an advocacy promoting awareness of suicide prevention strategies has developed. The World Health Organisation states over 800,000 people die each year by taking their own life. What staggering statistics when you think of how many others are not successful with their attempts.
We often hold the misconception that only people suffering depression or mental illness will suicide. Unfortunately emotional upheaval and crisis is more often what leads to this sad and totally preventable outcome.
When the night gets cold and the lights go out
The sun is gone behind the clouds
And you feel lost, and I’ll reach out
To guide you home with my lighthouse
Joining with Give one Hour, an American non-profit organisation, G.R.L hope to promote and make people aware of five key signs that someone close to you may be suffering emotionally. (Visit the website www.grlgivesanhour.org if you are interested in more details.)
The lyrics have spoken many important messages to me the past few days, the one which is pivotal to this post is that regardless if as a friend you remember birthdays, or promptly reply to an email, true friendship is at its brightest when you know, no matter what, that person will wrap their arms around you and hold you safe in your times of need and darkness.
After sorting my thoughts into neat little piles I conclude that some people need those little things to remember just how much you care, especially if you don’t occasionally say the words.
As you go about your day, consider, if you have a good friend to take some time to send out a message and let them know that you not only see their light shinning but that they will never be alone.
Hugs everyone, PB xxx
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