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Confessions and Controversies

2015 04 23 PB at the beach

Although actively choosing to not participate on the recent explosion of blog and social media posts regarding Second Life and the somewhat familiar media discourse of Second Life being nothing more than a platform for kinky, degrading adult activities I have invested some time to read differing views on the current situation.

There are those supporting the views that Second Life has an over indulgence of adult regions. That sexuality is often inescapable due to the attire or behaviour of residents found across all grid codes. To those promoting the necessity of freedom of expression, especially within a virtual environment. Following the journey, we find posts questioning the right to use, or indeed supporting the use, of online public shaming. This issue is of particular importance as governments around the world deliberate and tackle the overwhelming factual evidence and statistics of online bullying resulting in suicide.

Whether I agree or disagree with any or all views is immaterial. It could be suggested that by not setting forth my opinions somehow I am letting down the promotion of  Second Life as good. However with nearly 8 years invested in the world and I hate to admit but thousands of dollars, I believe that my continual existence in Second Life shows a conviction to the benefit I believe Second Life can bring to some lives. I do also believe it has the ability to be a negative impact and cause harm to certain portions of society.

So what’s my point?

Instead of focusing on a topic that seems to hit the airwaves every year and always gets the same heated responses (cynical me would call this “baiting”) I think we should instead be focusing on why as a community there is such angst in accepting differing points of views and opinions. We should be questioning our need for there to be an absolute right or wrong. We should be questioning our own actions and addressing any and all attacks upon another user on the web. Online bullying is an epidemic and yet stops with each one of our fingers hitting an enter button. Solve the problem don’t be part of it.

Wouldn’t a better approach be to question the voices that scream the loudest on either side of ANY topic and seek more information, listen to how their opinion has been formed and then if in disagreement set forth your own case in a calm educated manner. I have yet to be proven that 144 characters typed into twitter has any ability to change opposing views.

Should we really care so much about a differing opinion of our  virtual world  that we will invest hours and days thumping on keyboards and baying for pixelated crucifixion?  I find it interesting yet also disappointing that with the amount of real life conflict, environmental, financial and humanitarian crisis’ currently being experienced worldwide, instead of focusing on issues that require deep thought, engagement and promotion of great ideas to solve we seem engrossed in the egotistical realm of our virtual existences. Have we forgotten that there is a huge portion of society who have never heard about Second Life and have zero interest at all in virtual existences? And whether you want or don’t want a Second life, you know what, that’s OKAY. (Unless you are a shareholder of Linden Lab and financial interests would want everyone to want a second, third and fourth life)

Thinking on all this, I remembered a great lyrical piece called Confession by Tim Minchin who is a highly educated Australian comedian. I have included it below to give the past week a little bit of balance and perspective. If not easily offended I beg you to give six minutes of your life to listening to it.

(Warning – the “F” word and adult content within the lyrics)

Lastly, Second Life should always be an addition to your life. It should be about being a fun and happy experience to the individual. Why care so much what a complete unknown to you thinks about your behaviour ? Go forth and just enjoy!

Hopefully you will all find your own reason to smile this weekend.

Hugs, PB xx

Hair: Mina Hair – Yuliya
Bikini: Zaara – Naisha Bikini

10 comments on “Confessions and Controversies

  1. spunknbrains
    May 17, 2015

    I lost my comment again! Maybe that’s a sign not to say a word eh?

    • purplebutterflylykin
      May 20, 2015

      Nah just means you have slippery fingers. So stop eating whatever you have been enjoying 😛

      • spunknbrains
        May 20, 2015

        hahaha I’m not going to share just for that.

  2. spunknbrains
    May 17, 2015

    I was saying how entertained I’ve been the last couple of nights when I’ve not been able to sleep.. so I’ve been on my iPad surfing the web, the occasional blog read and saw the ones pertaining to this and I had quite the chuckle.

  3. spunknbrains
    May 17, 2015

    I do wonder if sometimes it’s also a way to generate blog traffic, because you know everyone says they don’t want to read or hear bad news and yet we gravitate to it like a moth to a flame.

    • purplebutterflylykin
      May 20, 2015

      Well I agree that there does seem a push on right now for increase of blog traffic, so you might be right sis, people jump on the bandwagon hoping that they get increased visits to their blog.

      But I question, do we all just want people visiting to lift up the visit target numbers or do we want people to stay and become engaged in what we write? I know my answer to that one!

  4. spunknbrains
    May 17, 2015

    You should consider changing the rating of your blog for that picture. Chuckles.

    • purplebutterflylykin
      May 20, 2015

      LOL this is the closest thing anyone is going to get to a “boobie” shot on this blog. A little side glimpse of my wonderful Lara breasts. Got to love these mesh bodies. HAHAHAHAHA.

  5. Becky
    May 18, 2015

    You ask good questions and make very good points, especially: “I think we should instead be focusing on why as a community there is such angst in accepting differing points of views and opinions. We should be questioning our need for there to be an absolute right or wrong. We should be questioning our own actions and addressing any and all attacks upon another user on the web. Online bullying is an epidemic and yet stops with each one of our fingers hitting an enter button. Solve the problem don’t be part of it.”

    Given what I’ve seen concerning this issue in the past week, I find that our intolerance for diverging views is frankly embarrassing. Ironically, I’ve never been all that concerned about the fact that people engage in all sorts of things in Second Life that the mainstream might consider ‘deviant’. After all, you can chalk that up to the fact that in any society, there will be extremes – as long as they aren’t hurting or abusing anyone – then it’s all fine. But when we start to attack people just for having different views than us. When people start to become anxious about having a less than popular opinion about something. Well, sadly, that’s when the virtual world begins feeling like an unsafe place.

    • purplebutterflylykin
      May 20, 2015

      Hi Becky,

      Thanks so much for visiting and engaging in the conversation by adding a comment!

      I often believe that the behaviour one exhibits in their online interactions often is an intense reflection of their real life character. Meaning that the realm of detachment to identity removes the softening that we do to our views and opinions in general mainstream society.

      My personal view is over the past 10-15 years there has been a nurturing creating more narcissistic and selfish personalities. Social judgement of others behaviour, aesthetics, religious beliefs and culture has become accepted practice with many government policies worldwide actively encouraging divisive them/us discourses.
      Having been conditioned to band together into group thinking, a natural reaction is those on the outer fringes to experience anxiety just for thinking differently. After all it takes a lot of courage to stand up and think for yourself.

      Given there has been a steady decline in general society of basic consideration for others, especially in regards to diverging views it seems only natural that it would be sharply reflected in actions of those online.

      As for the virtual world being unsafe, I have always shared concerns of those suffering forms of mental illness, depression and low esteem being involved in many online experiences. Yet I feel the greatest sadness is that by closing our minds we miss the opportunity to experience new views and opinions which experience tells us, sometimes can be quite life changing.

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